Counseling Corner: Keep Your Anger From Controlling You!

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We live in a world of high stress and tension. Whether it's bad economic news, local reports of growing crime rates, that traffic jam that made us late this morning, or a boss who never understands or appreciates us, we face lots of things that make our lives stressful.

Unfortunately, for many people, the stress and tension of daily life can build to the point that it only takes one small incident for them to explode, letting their anger get out of control.

Experts say anger is the most poorly-managed emotion in our society, with as many as one in five Americans having an anger control problem. Not being able to manage one's anger is a major cause of conflicts in both professional and personal relationships.

Is it a problem for you? One way to judge how well you control your anger is to consider whether you've ever, during an argument: raised your voice; broken something; pushed, slapped or physically hurt someone; embarrassed yourself; or felt out of control.

If any of those apply, you might consider some actions to help you better manage your anger:

   
  • Accept responsibility for your anger. Anger may be triggered by someone else, but it's you who lets it happen and grow out of control.
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  • Learn to recognize the beginning signs of anger. Anger is easier to control when emotions are still at a low level.
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  • Try to identify the cause of your anger. It isn't someone else, but rather something within you, emotional or psychological from your past, that's usually the real source of your anger.
  • Focus on the situation or behavior making you angry, rather than the other person.

  • Criticizing or name-calling doesn't resolve a problem but merely escalates it. Rather than putting the other person on the defensive and raising the conflict level, use "I" statements to talk about what you're feeling and experiencing.
     
  • Learn to listen and communicate more effectively. Too often situations that lead to an angry outburst are simply the result of not understanding what was said, or not expressing yourself clearly and calmly.
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    Anger should never control you. When it does, it can make your life miserable, lead to very real problems and even affect your health. If your anger is sometimes out of control and causing you problems, consider an anger-management course (your local hospital or mental health center may offer one), or consulting a counseling professional offering anger-management help.

    The Counseling Corner is provided as a public service by the American Counseling Association, the nation's largest organization of counseling professionals. Learn more about the counseling profession at www.counseling.org.
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    Lanesborough Town Meeting to Vote Budget, Bylaws & Vehicle Purchases

    By Breanna SteeleiBerkshires Staff

    LANESBOROUGH, Mass. — Tuesday's annual town meeting includes a $14 million operating budget, new short-term rentals, accessory dwelling units and sign bylaws, and free cash article appropriations.

    Voters will gather at Lanesborough Elementary School on June 9 at 6 p.m. to decide on 20 warrant articles.

    The fiscal 2027 budget is up a little over 10 percent. Some of the main increases are the Mount Greylock Regional School District and McCann Technical School: the McCann assessment is up more than 30 percent based on factors including enrollment and the school renovation project, and Mount Greylock's is up 11 percent.

    Article 11 is for the town to vote to approve from free cash the sum of $16,298.48 for the McCann Technical School roof and window replacement project so as not to impact the budget. Article 3 is  appropriate $7,586,284 for Mount Greylock Regional School assessment.

    Another notable increase was in life and health insurance, showing an increase of about 26 percent.

    Ambulance Director Jen Weber is planning 24-hour coverage, which means more staff and a hike in her budget. One of the articles asks the town to appropriate $234,100 to operate the Ambulance Enterprise Fund for salaries and expenses.

    Many town departments are looking for new vehicles. The Fire Department is looking to replace its outdated 1996 fire engine. There are two articles related to the truck at a total of $813,366. Article 12 would transfer $225,000 from free cash into the Fire Truck Stabilization Fund; Article 13 would transfer $605,000 from the fund and authorize the borrowing of $208,366.08.

    The total includes a $100,000 contingency cost to cover any additional costs if a 2026 model-year chassis cannot be secured before new emissions standards go into effect in 2027.

    The board at its last meeting moved the $225,000 transfer to come before the borrowing article, changing the stabilization number. If the $225,000 is not voted on, then they will amend the next article's number on the floor, subtracting the $225,000. This shows the borrowing number significantly lower.

    Article 17 asks for the transfer of $80,000 from free cash to replace a police cruiser.

    Police Chief Rob Derksen's aim is to replace one vehicle every other year, meaning the oldest vehicle gets replaced about every 10 years. 

    He stressed that if delayed this year, the town may have to double up in a future year to get back on schedule, and that paying later usually costs more. The article will ask for $80,000 from free cash, the vehicles used to be funded by the BHRD.

    Lastly, the Highway Department is looking to replace a 2014 International dump truck that will be a total of $330,000 and will take two to three years to receive.

    Money will be used from last year's approval of $250,000 from free cash for the replacement of a 2012 highway front-end loader that was underspent $49,261. Town meeting is being asked to approve  a transfer of $53,274.85 from free cash and the use of $227,464 from funds from the Sale of Town Real Estate to fund the balance.

    Other free cash proposals include $1,200 to purchase software to support tracking and ongoing maintenance schedules of town-owned vehicles; $42,000 for the replacement of the Highway Department's storage shed roof, $200,000 to reduce the tax levy.

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