Counseling Corner: Keep Your Anger From Controlling You!
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Unfortunately, for many people, the stress and tension of daily life can build to the point that it only takes one small incident for them to explode, letting their anger get out of control.
Experts say anger is the most poorly-managed emotion in our society, with as many as one in five Americans having an anger control problem. Not being able to manage one's anger is a major cause of conflicts in both professional and personal relationships.
Is it a problem for you? One way to judge how well you control your anger is to consider whether you've ever, during an argument: raised your voice; broken something; pushed, slapped or physically hurt someone; embarrassed yourself; or felt out of control.
If any of those apply, you might consider some actions to help you better manage your anger:
Criticizing or name-calling doesn't resolve a problem but merely escalates it. Rather than putting the other person on the defensive and raising the conflict level, use "I" statements to talk about what you're feeling and experiencing.
Anger should never control you. When it does, it can make your life miserable, lead to very real problems and even affect your health. If your anger is sometimes out of control and causing you problems, consider an anger-management course (your local hospital or mental health center may offer one), or consulting a counseling professional offering anger-management help.
The Counseling Corner is provided as a public service by the American Counseling Association, the nation's largest organization of counseling professionals. Learn more about the counseling profession at www.counseling.org.

