Berkshire Profile: Natalie Cain

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Natalie Cain stands near colorful paper cranes that will be used during a Thanksgiving Peace event sponsored by the Women's House of Peace. The cranes are part of a planned presentation of "Sadako and the Peace Cranes."
Welcome to Berkshire Profile, an iberkshires weekly feature appearing on Sunday. Each week, iberkshires will highlight a Berkshires resident or entity making a contribution to the Berkshires way of life. North Adams - At 62, Natalie Cain believes she is entering a new season of her life. "The autumn is a beautiful time," she said during a Nov. 3 interview at her home. "It's a time to gather all you have been a part of and let it shine." Peace Is What the autumn of her life is not is a time to slow down; Cain is very active with the Northern Berkshire Community Coalition, a co-founder and leader of the Women's House of Peace, a nun of the extremely active Sisters of St. Joseph order and is presently steeped in preparations for a Women's House of Peace-sponsored Thanksgiving event. All aspects of peace - personal, spiritual, community, political and international - are priorities for Cain. "Peace is here," she said. "All we have to do is stop. Just stop, and discover that peace is. We don't create it. Peace is." Raising Cains Cain was born in the city and lived with her parents at the family's Pleasant Street home. Her twin brother Neil Cain died several years ago. The household was active with youthful exuberance; "the twins" had five siblings, Richard, Joseph, Ann, Marjorie and Christopher. "Everyone knew the Cain house," she said. Cain attended pre-primary, kindergarten and first grade classes at the former Mark Hopkins school and when she entered second grade,she was a pupil at the St. Joseph's parochial school. Cain graduated from the high school as part of the Class of 1962. "It was a wonderful time to grow up in [the St. Joseph's] community," Cain said. "It was vibrant, alive, St. Joe was bursting at the seams." Cain has been a nun for 44 years; she entered the Sisters of St. Joseph convent immediately after high school graduation, she said. Most of the order served as teachers and Cain was no exception. She became an elementary school teacher and taught at St. Mary's school in Longmeadow, mass. as well as St. Agnes school in Dalton. "I taught first grade at both schools and third grade at St. Agnes," she said. Teaching was apparently a family vocation as well. Joseph and Richard Cain became teachers as did Ann Cain. And while she has been a nun for more than four decades, Cain is known as "Natalie" and not often greeted as "Sister." "I'm not a person of labels," she said. Cain described herself as a "people person with a deep need for solitude." The dual personality facets sometimes wrangle wit each other, but Cain said she finds ways to nourish both hungers. The Women's House of Peace, for example, sponsors numerous group activities throughout the year but also hosts regularly scheduled silent prayer or meditation sessions as well. She stopped teaching during the early 1980s to care for her mother, who was ill. After her mother died, "I never really went back to teaching," she said. "Everybody Has A Story" She began working as a parish visitor for the St. Mark's Catholic church in Pittsfield. She believes that she visited over 500 people in their homes, and learned something from each one, she said. And there was an overall lesson to be learned, she added. "I learned that everybody has a story and how important it is to listen," she said. "If we could learn to listen to each other - I've learned that listening promotes healing and understanding. Listening to someone says that they are worth your time. It's one of the most important things we can do as human beings." And if people can open their ears, why not their hearts as well? "I believe there are no strangers, just people we haven't met yet. When you meet new people, it can be like finding an aspect of yourself. If you see it that way, then everyone is awesome." Peace and friendship may be better cultivated in more relaxed atmospheres, and those environments can be tough to find in modern times, she noted. "Our society is such that we always have to go on to the next thing," Cain said. "There's no time to nurture." Cain earned a master's degree in pastoral ministry at the St. Joseph's College, West Hartford, Conn., during the 1980s. Connections She shifted from parish work to an new job as a coordinator for the Berkshire Regional Office of Religious Education, and learned that she had a particular educational interest. "I discovered that I had a passion for adult spiritual development." Cain said that "spiritual development" isn't defined exclusively by religious affiliation. "In trying to understand spirituality, I learned that it is not religion as such. Religion has a role and every religion has a spiritual aspect, but the spiritual doesn't always get nurtured. Spirituality is defined more as a connection, a connection to humans, a connection to nature." Many structured religious spirituality programs focus on youth and do not speak to those who've reached adulthood, Cain said. "And this is where spirituality really comes into play, when we are adults," she said. "What I found is that I loved developing programs for adults." One adult-focused program Cain launched was called "Listening to God and Others." "I saw the adults beginning to change and grow," she said. "Religious education, and even regular education, doesn't teach us to value our own insights," she said. "We are always looking to someone else for answers." Cain returned to the city to live and work in 1989. She worked at the Notre Dame parish in Adams and then at the St. Francis of Assisi Church in North Adams. Times Of Change During that era, many seeds of change were taking root in the churches and the neighborhoods, she said. "At that period, you had some very active clergy in the city," she said. "They were socially -oriented, community-minded people." Discussions that began as religious forums led to community involvement, such as the launch of the UNO neighborhood group founded by Shirley Davis. At that time, the NBCC was known as the Northern Berkshire Health and Human Services Center, and the agency was very involved with community as well, Cain said. The entity was seeking a "neighborhood development specialist" and Cain was hired for the task, she said. Cain is an ovarian cancer survivor. The Women's House Of Peace began while she was recovering from surgery in 1991. Cain invited several women to explore and share spirituality at her home. The number of women who attended the sharings grew and the importance of the sessions became clear to Cain, and the Women's House Of Peace joined the community as a non-profit entity in 1996. The headquarters are at 20 Veazie St.. There are similarities between the NBCC and peace initiative, Cain said. "The coalition had never existed before but there were many assistance groups focused on pieces of this and that," she said. "The coalition gathered all these people and brought them together. It was the same with the House of Peace. The House of Peace transcends all religions. It continues to be a place of spirituality but it is also about ways to connect with community." Always In Awe As someone who has visited areas of France, Italy, Guatemala and Mexico, Cain said she has been inspired by how people build a sense of community in other parts of the world. "The stories of sharing and how people came to be in the same space are awe-inspiring," she said. " I realize just how much we are truly connected as humans and I am always in awe." Her connection to the Sisters of St. Joseph is strong, and so is her connection to the Northern Berkshire residents. "I think of myself as a weaver of people, a weaver of community," she said. "That's what the Sisters of St. Joseph are about and I am very much about the Sisters of St. Joseph and connecting neighbor to neighbor." Collect The Nectar, Share The Honey Her life may be reaching its' pinnacle in the coming years, she said. "I feel that I am just coming into what my purpose is," she said. "I liken myself to a bumblebee who's been able to collect nectar from all these wonderful places. And I'm ready to discover and share the honey." Susan Bush may be reached at suebush@iberkshires.com or at 802-823-9367.
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Companion Corner Grey Boy at No Paws Left Behind

By Breanna SteeleiBerkshires Staff

NORTH ADAMS, Mass. — There's a cat No Paws Left Behind still waiting for his forever home.

iBerkshire's Companion Corner is a weekly series spotlighting an animal in our local shelters that is ready to find a home. He was previously highlighted but he now has new information.

Grey Boy is 10 years old and is a gray and white domestic shorthair and was previously highlighted on Companion Corner.

The shelter's Executive Director Noelle Howland introduced us to him and his long journey to be ready for adoption.

"He's been here a couple months. He was a transfer from a rescue in Bennington. They were out of space, so we had taken him in with a few other cats. So he's been here a couple months. He came in with what we believed was a respiratory infection," she said. "So it took us a little bit to get him ready, and then he also needed a dental. So he has nice, clean teeth. He had some teeth removed, and then he has to go back in and have one more dental. So he'll be all ready to go."

It was previously thought that he has feline herpes but he was recently diagnosed with a palette fracture because of how bad his dental disease was, which is what is causing his sneezing. He can now go home with cats, a cat-savvy dog and children.

"He has had two dentals since being with us. Due to the palate fracture he will be sneezy for the rest of his life, not contagious sneezing, but that doesn’t stop him from living a perfectly happy life. He should be on wet food with chunks due to this and since he has had many teeth removed," Howland said.

Grey Boy loves to play with toys and enjoy treats. He would also love to have a window to lounge or bird-watch in.

"He is not afraid of anything. He's very curious, so I'm sure he'd love if you have windows for him to look out of. He still plays, even though he's 10 it does not stop him. So any home would be a good fit for him."

Now that he is ready to be adopted, he is excited. When you walk into the room with him he will rub up against your leg introducing himself and asking to be pet.

"Usually, I would say, when you're walking, he'll bonk into you so he might catch you off guard a little bit. He constantly is rubbing against you," Howland said. "He really, I would say he's lazy when you want him to be, and he's active when you want him to be. He'll play with toys. He's usually lounging away. And then when he comes out he'll play. He loves it. So, very friendly, easy going cat."

He is now perfectly healthy with his dentals all done and veterinary care up to date and is ready to find his forever family.

"I would say the friendliest, easiest cat you could have. He's just, he's just gonna be a little sneezy sometimes, but that doesn't stop him from doing anything," she said.

Grey Boy's adoption fee is sponsored by Rooted in Balance Counseling LLC.

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