Counseling Corner: Surviving the Teen Party Season

American Counseling AssociationiBerkshires
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It's the season of the year when parental gray hairs increase as parents worry about their teen-aged children's party activities. From graduation celebrations to the beginning of the summer pool party season, as the school year winds down the teen party scene gets more lively.

While it's natural for parents to worry about their teenagers activities, especially when off partying, setting some simple rules and guidelines can reduce both teen and parental stress.

One basic rule should be that you are given the name, address, phone number and parent names for any party your teen will be attending. If you don't know the family, call the parents to make sure an adult will be present and no drugs or alcohol will be available. Make your call an offer to help and you can get your questions answered through a casual conversation without embarrassing your teen.

You also want to clarify driving arrangements and restrictions. Riding with someone who's been drinking or taking drugs is always forbidden. In such cases your teen should know they can call you at any time for a ride, or that you'll cover cab fare home, and that there will be no repercussions or blame.

You want your teenager to understand that he or she is really only responsible for himself or herself. Let your teen understand that there won't be punishment just because others at a party get out of control and make trouble.

Your teens should also agree to contact you should a party's location be changed. Suggest excuses they can use to call ("I forgot my key") to help them keep from being embarrassed by checking in, but they need to let you know when there's a change.


If your teen wants to sleep over at a friend's, make it clear that you will want to call the parents to confirm they'll be home and that it has their blessing.

At other times, be there when your teen arrives home and make sure all is well.

Setting such rules and guidelines works best when you and your teenage child sit down and work them out together. Get your teen's input and offer suggestions on how to handle situations responsibly. You and your teen should agree on penalties when rules are broken.

With a little preparation, the teen party season can be an enjoyable one for your teen, and a less worrisome one for you.

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Lanesborough Town Meeting to Vote Budget, Bylaws & Vehicle Purchases

By Breanna SteeleiBerkshires Staff

LANESBOROUGH, Mass. — Tuesday's annual town meeting includes a $14 million operating budget, new short-term rentals, accessory dwelling units and sign bylaws, and free cash article appropriations.

Voters will gather at Lanesborough Elementary School on June 9 at 6 p.m. to decide on 20 warrant articles.

The fiscal 2027 budget is up a little over 10 percent. Some of the main increases are the Mount Greylock Regional School District and McCann Technical School: the McCann assessment is up more than 30 percent based on factors including enrollment and the school renovation project, and Mount Greylock's is up 11 percent.

Article 11 is for the town to vote to approve from free cash the sum of $16,298.48 for the McCann Technical School roof and window replacement project so as not to impact the budget. Article 3 is  appropriate $7,586,284 for Mount Greylock Regional School assessment.

Another notable increase was in life and health insurance, showing an increase of about 26 percent.

Ambulance Director Jen Weber is planning 24-hour coverage, which means more staff and a hike in her budget. One of the articles asks the town to appropriate $234,100 to operate the Ambulance Enterprise Fund for salaries and expenses.

Many town departments are looking for new vehicles. The Fire Department is looking to replace its outdated 1996 fire engine. There are two articles related to the truck at a total of $813,366. Article 12 would transfer $225,000 from free cash into the Fire Truck Stabilization Fund; Article 13 would transfer $605,000 from the fund and authorize the borrowing of $208,366.08.

The total includes a $100,000 contingency cost to cover any additional costs if a 2026 model-year chassis cannot be secured before new emissions standards go into effect in 2027.

The board at its last meeting moved the $225,000 transfer to come before the borrowing article, changing the stabilization number. If the $225,000 is not voted on, then they will amend the next article's number on the floor, subtracting the $225,000. This shows the borrowing number significantly lower.

Article 17 asks for the transfer of $80,000 from free cash to replace a police cruiser.

Police Chief Rob Derksen's aim is to replace one vehicle every other year, meaning the oldest vehicle gets replaced about every 10 years. 

He stressed that if delayed this year, the town may have to double up in a future year to get back on schedule, and that paying later usually costs more. The article will ask for $80,000 from free cash, the vehicles used to be funded by the BHRD.

Lastly, the Highway Department is looking to replace a 2014 International dump truck that will be a total of $330,000 and will take two to three years to receive.

Money will be used from last year's approval of $250,000 from free cash for the replacement of a 2012 highway front-end loader that was underspent $49,261. Town meeting is being asked to approve  a transfer of $53,274.85 from free cash and the use of $227,464 from funds from the Sale of Town Real Estate to fund the balance.

Other free cash proposals include $1,200 to purchase software to support tracking and ongoing maintenance schedules of town-owned vehicles; $42,000 for the replacement of the Highway Department's storage shed roof, $200,000 to reduce the tax levy.

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