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2022 One Book, One Community Read Tackles Intimate Abuse

By Brittany PolitoiBerkshires Staff
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PITTSFIELD, Mass. — The third annual One Book, One Community read features Tanya Selvaratnam's recount of intimate abuse from former New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderman.

In October, about two dozen virtual groups began reading "Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence" by Tanya Selvaratnam, and in April, the event will conclude with a webinar with the author.

The read is organized by the Berkshire Domestic and Sexual Violence Task Force and kicked off during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Selvaratnam's story shows that abuse can happen to any person regardless of their job, income, or societal standing.

"It's a memoir and it's very interesting for a variety of reasons," Berkshire One Book co-Chair Susan Birns said.

"Both she and her perpetrator break a lot of the stereotypes people have of both abuse victims and abuse perpetrators. On the other hand, Tanya has several different identities of groups of people who are at high risk for domestic violence."

At the time of Selvaratnam's reported abuse, Schneiderman was the principal legal officer of New York and was thought to be politically progressive, especially around women's issues.

Selvaratnam was a part of the risk population because she witnessed domestic violence in her home as a child and is an immigrant.

On the other hand, she and Schneiderman are both Harvard-educated and had high-profile jobs.

"Nobody is exempt," Birns said.

In May 2018, the New Yorker published an article detailing Selvaratnam's abuse by the former attorney general and accounts of abuse from three other women.


Allegations included hitting, slapping, choking, demeaning the women while in bed, and threatening to kill them if they broke up with him.

In a statement, Schneiderman said he had engaged in role-playing and other consensual sexual activity but did not assault anyone or engage in nonconsensual sex.

Three hours after the publication, Schneiderman resigned from his position. He did not face criminal charges due to the statute of limitations and deficiencies in the state law.

Birns added that the book touches on a number of common characteristics of abusers, such as having a "Jekyll and Hyde" personality in which they put one face on for the world and another in the context of intimate relationships.

This leads to a number of survivors not being believed.

The book is around 200 pages with around 40 pages of resources.

Last April, during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, the One Book, One Community event included public art exhibitions from activist-artist Tatyana Fazlalizadeh to accompany countywide group readings of her book "Stop Telling Women to Smile: Stories of Street Harassment and How We're Taking Back Our Power."

Around 20 groups read the book and 250 people attended the webinar with Fazlalizadeh.

In addition to educating various groups and individuals, $570 was donated to Elizabeth Freeman Center through the registration page for the webinar hosted by The Mount.

The task force was launched by outgoing District Attorney Andrea Harrington in 2019. The first community read was "No Visible Bruises: What We Don't Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us" by Rachel Louise Snyder and the event brought nearly 500 people to the Colonial Theatre to hear her speak.


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Companion Corner: Fox at Berkshire Humane Society

By Breanna SteeleiBerkshires Staff

PITTSFIELD, Mass. — There's a sweet and energetic dog at the Berkshire Humane Society waiting for his new family.

iBerkshire's Companion Corner is a weekly series spotlighting an animal in our local shelters that is ready to find a home.

Fox is a 3-year-old Pomeranian who has been at the shelter for about a month.

Canine caregiver and adoption counselor Simone Olivieri told us about Fox. 

"He's a bundle of joy. He would love a family who's home with him a lot, because he's just, he's very social and wants to be with his people a lot. And he would be fun to bring out and about, bring a lot of places, because he's very happy to go anywhere," she said.

When Fox enters the room he is immediately a puffball of energy that goes around and around the room.

He came to the shelter after his former owner could not take care of him anymore. 

"The owner was just not able to care for him anymore. Had he came in with another dog, Wolf, and she already did find her forever home just last week," said Olivieri. "The two of them were left with a friend of the original owner, and the owner did not come back to pick them up, and the friend had too many animals in the house, and too much going on, and she just couldn't continue to look after them, so they did end up coming to us."

Fox can go home with cats and children but is not recommended to go home with other dogs as he gets too excited.

"He would love a home where people are home quite a bit to give him all the attention that he so desires. He loves kids. He absolutely adores children. So he would like a home with kids to play with. He could live with cats. We are saying that he should not live with other dogs. The only reason is that he gets very humpy, and he does not leave the other dogs alone," she said.

With his energy it is recommended he goes to a home that can keep him active whether walks or hikes and even fetch in the yard.

Fox does need to learn more about walking on a leash and has a tendency to mark in the house but he was recently neutered. Olivieri said belly bands will be sent home with whoever adopts him to help prevent marking and managing it.

"He would like an active home. He really does like to go for walks daily. He likes to run around in the yard. He does need a little work on leash walking. He sometimes gets a little tangled still under your feet, and he's learning how to walk on a leash," she said. "So, someone who's got some patience and some time to work on some training with him."

"He also is not fully potty trained, so he does know to go potty outside. However, he will still mark, urinate in the house sometimes, and he might poop here and there in the house."

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